new year resolutions: find more passion, pleasure + play w/ our 30 day sex challenge
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deep dive into this sex challenge + kick off the year in bed
New year, new you? Nah, but we are down for a slew of resolutions that ignite your passions, unleash your curiosities and inspire so much play that living a luscious orgasmic life is a no brainer.
We've got 30 juicy, pleasure-filled sex tips, prompts that trade your To Do list for a yummier Do You list. Use these ideas as inspo by bringing your own experience level to the party and adjust the challenges to fit where you are on your journey and in your day-to-day life. Test-drive one, two or all of the prompts below to see what you can unleash and if you’re too shy to try anything, you can always give it a shot and blame it on the challenge.
If you're already living a pretty juicy sex life, find places to mix up your routine. Disclaimer: We don't guarantee a new year, but we're certain you'll have a fuck-ton of fun for the next 30 days.
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sex challenge:
vision board some new sex positions.
Get super clear on what you want and find visual representations to keep your fantasies, bucket list and challenges alive and ready to be manifested. Like a regular vision board but instead of an image of your dream house on the beach, you're manifesting a reverse cowgirl off the back of your office desk.
sex challenge:
up-level your sex drawer.
Are your sex toys worthy of your needs? Do they meet all of your desires? Do they keep you curious, playful and luxurious? Are you still excited when using them? If not, expand your arsenal of playthings so you stay challenged and off the plateau.
sex challenge:
book a sesh with a sex coach.
Most of them have consults, private sessions or group workshops that give you a safe space to ask questions, explore needs and discover more about who you are, what you like and how to expand your pleasure.
sex challenge:
adorn your body
Ask any coach or mentor and they'll tell you that you have to show up life as the person you want to be — whether you're there or not. If you want a juicier, yummier, more passionate sex life, then wear lingerie pieces (or anything else that turns you on) to keep your own fires stirring in and out of bed.
sex challenge:
switch up your sexy time.
Do you always bang one out during your morning shower? Are you a Friday night sex goddess? Challenge your circadian rhythms and libido by exploring different times a day… middle of the night, a replacement to your afternoon coffee, post-workout.
sex challenge:
hunt down a new aphrodisiac.
Whether it’s food (raw chocolate, anyone?), spirits (champs or whiskey, your choice), a scent (jasmine, rose, vanilla…). Invite yourself to explore something sensorial and arousing every day.
sex challenge:
fuck with your head.
Disrupt your patterns (and pleasure) by switching things up. Incorporate a new piece of lingerie, change soundtracks, adjust the lighting, seduce your partner in a whole new way, christen a new part of your house, your car, your backyard.…
sex challenge:
book a night in someone else’s bed.
Staying at a hotel is literally escapism. Use it as an excuse to do something else, be someone else, get messy. Give yourself permission to discover. If nothing else, hotel sex is some of the best sex.
sex challenge:
pretend to be someone else.
Try on new clothes, different makeup, wigs, voices, talk, tone, music…. Feel what it’s like to play in someone else’s stilettos…. Uncover something new about yourself by pretending to be someone else. Book a hotel room, meet your lover out in the wild or turn your home into a sexy hotel stay-cation.
sex challenge:
do something that scares the fuck out of you.
Try the thing you’ve always wanted to try but were too afraid. What’s the worst that could happen? It's like we always say, keep calm and carry a safe word.
sex challenge:
tell your partner(s) what you need.
To get what you want, you have to say what you want no matter how you think it might sound or be received. All those lustful fantasies playing out in your head? Whisper them aloud to yourself, your partner. Say aloud what you want, you need, you crave. Bonus points if you act them out. Double bonus if you can get your partner in on the verbal action.
sex challenge:
play, giggle, laugh, tease.
The obvious reason is that fuck-making is supposed to be fun. Smiling, laughing, playing not only increases intimacy, but can help you ride out the awkward moments when you're test-driving a new partner, position or experience.
sex challenge:
get tied up.
Cuffs, tethers, ribbons… wrap them around ankles, thighs, arms, necks (gentle of course), your ass, and see what new pleasure points respond to pressure. Bonus points if you partner up for play.
sex challenge:
blindfold them (or you) on the regular.
It heightens senses, engages your body and give even your most go-to moves and routines a sexy, more creative upgrade .
sex challenge:
try a lube “tasting”
There are so many new lubes, sex serums and erotic oils on the market which is a good excuse to switch yours up. Buy samples or travel packs, pick up a discovery kit, find a new brand you love. See how many new ways you can use lube in the next month.
sex challenge:
create your own 7-day lap dance challenge.
And dress the part. Try a completely different style every day and broaden your lingerie palette…. thongs, cheekies, high-waisted, g-strings, briefs with a zipper that leads you to the promise land, no panties at all... Play with touching them, sliding them on, peeling them off and, of course, add your own soundtrack to inspire your body to move.
sex challenge:
practice passion.
Find what songs, poems, literature, guided meditations whet your appetite and get your juices flowing.
sex challenge:
practice the art of erotic massage.
Finding new erogenous zones throughout your body is one of the sexiest ways to can find more pleasure and peace in your body — and theirs if you're partnered up. It’s worth squeezing in a minimum of 10-15 minutes (a day, a week….) to unlock what areas ignite you… and while you’re getting up to speed, the simple act of a mini massage sesh will de-stress you at the end of the day.
sex challenge:
explore new fetishes + kinks.
High heels? Thigh-highs? Elbow-length gloves? Corsets? Chokers? Whips? Wrist cuffs? Body chains? Harnesses? Find the kink that pushes you in all the most luscious ways.
sex challenge:
make missionary the stuff of gods (+ goddesses).
There's a reason that missionary style has lasted through the ages and it's not just because one person gets to be a pillow princess. When done with the same passion and purpose you give to the first time you fuck, the 764th missionary attempt can be just as delicious. You just gotta add your personality, some play and lots of creativity.
sex challenge:
seduce your nose.
Find a new erotic scent. Switch up your everyday fragrance and notice how catching a whiff of an unexpected scent elicits a delightful, teasing surprise. After all, surprise is the secret to sizzling sex. Consider using different scents in different rooms or with different toys or lingerieto keep your mind + body engaged.
sex challenge:
uncover scent-ual sex.
Build on yesterday’s olfactory challenge and plan a perfume tasting. Explore which notes specifically arouse your senses — or maybe there’s a symphony of scent that wants to be played out, one body part at a time. See if your partner can find them all.
sex challenge:
add edging to foreplay.
In a world of instant access, optimization and ‘let’s get things done faster,' edging is BDSM's version of slow the fuck down. The idea is to bring yourself or a partner as close to orgasm as possible then back off. Rinse and repeat. The idea is to build pleasure, extend play and bring more explosive orgasms. Sign us up.
sex challenge:
score new skills.
Watch ethical porn, join MakeLoveNotPorn's community for social sex, book a sex workshop — all ways to mostly anonymously gain instant inspiration, different moves or a new skill set that you can practice alone or with a lover.
sex challenge:
ignite your yoni.
There’s no denying the sensual pleasure of sliding a healing crystal inside your personal temple for a boost in libido, orgasm, muscle strength and, tbh, some delicious fun. While the scientific community isn't necessarily proving they work, if they work for you, it might be worth a try.
sex challenge:
tap into your inner Dom or sub.
You can safely explore hidden or untapped parts of you by booking time with a Dom at a sex dungeon, online workshop or private consults. You'll find ways to explore fantasies and create adult play the safe way.
sex challenge:
unleash your erotic breath.
Holding your breath during sex can stop the flow of energy (and obviously oxygen) and inhibit pleasure and orgasms. Taking deep belly breaths can boost with stamina, heighten your orgasms and extend their ripples through your body. Try different erotic breathwork techniques to see how they feel in your body and when to use them to up-level your play time.
sex challenge:
get even more worked up.
It’s not just your imagination that you feel hornier after a bout of exercise. Scientists agree there’s a link between exercise and a boost in genital arousal in women. We think it's science worth testing yourself. Plus, doesn’t it just always feel good to move your body? And then, actually move your body? If you're not sure how to move, online or IRL body movement classes can get you started.
sex challenge:
masturbate like a pro.
If you don't fuck yourself right, then how can someone else?
How are making this sex challenge your own? What are you adding to this list?
