hotel sex: transform your home into a sexy weekend staycation

You probably don't need a study to tell you that the hottest, juiciest, yummiest sex often happens in hotels. But if you want science to weigh in, you're in luck. A 2015 study spanning 11 countries and more than 2,000 people confirmed almost half said that had sex more often in hotel beds, and even better, hotel sex lasted between 25-49 minutes longer (great for you, not great for the room next door). Another study in 2018 suggests it's the excitement that gets you going and keeps you there. That research also suggested it wasn't just the thrill of getting out of the bedroom that excites us, but also the dopamine hit we get from novelty as well as the dip in stress that comes from stepping away from your daily life. Regardless, if you're among the half of Americans who'd rather fuck in the penthouse of a five-star suite, here are some tips for transforming your pad into a sexy staycation. Read and cancel your weekend plans.

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set the mood (lighting)

Weekend mood: sultry. Switch out a few light bulbs for red ones, create ambient lighting with candles, use the dimmer switches. You want low lights and sexy shadows.

set up a sex toy bar

For seduction on “demand”, create a mini bar of sexy toys from vibes, plugs and strokers to restraints, handcuffs, harnesses and other play pieces. Outfit it with your faves and some new surprises, make sure they're all fully charged and on deck.
 

create an erotic massage den

Whether it’s a spare room, a comfy couch or a sexy space in your house, create a sexy little spa den. Consider massage table made of fur blankets and scrumptious hotel-worthy pillows, a tray of erotic massage oils, massage oil candles, aphrodisiac incense, a vibrating massager.

stock on your aphrodisiacs

What ups your arousal? Flavors? Scents? Textures? Music? Have current faves on hand and some new sensual experiments available for discovery and play.

build something together

Maybe it’s a cocktail, maybe it’s a charcuterie of aphrodisiacs, maybe it’s, how many ways can we work the snkx harness, stretch tethers, play straps, wraps?

make a fuck bed

Down comforters, cozy blankets, sex pillows, silky little restraints (or not)… the idea is to create a new “bed” in all-new surroundings for that hotel-esque novelty your body and brain craves.

learn erotic massage tricks

Either find an online erotic massage class you can take together and test on each other IRL or learn some pro tips ahead of your spa weekend so you can surprise your lover with a mind-blowing [foot, hand, booty, yoni, lingam…] massage.
 

give your bathroom a sexy hotel makeover

Even small touches can elevate the experience: Two plush new towels, sheet or mud masks, yummy spa soaps, after-bath oils, bath salts or scrubs, a small shower bench or bath tray, candles, waterproof toys.
 

make a vices bar

From pre-batched cocktails, small bottles of spirits and flights of cannabis/weed to those (legal) ‘shroom chocolates, add anything that helps get your mind in a lustier, moodier, “I’m not a home” space.

rethink missionary style

If you're going to revert to classic moves, try giving them a twist for more curiosity, passion and play. Add a new toy, tack on some serious edging, blindfold them, make them follow your orders, you follow theirs, tie each other together, slick each other in body oil…. the list is almost endless.

stock your kitchen

You know you’ll work up an appetite, so plan ahead. Think of what’s so decadent about hotel stays. Croissants? Strawberries? Champagne? Don't forget the linen napkins, sexy glassware, fresh flowers.

decorate with seduction in mind

Order a sexy coffee table book and keep it in view, style your mantel with crystal dildos, fill your fruit bowl with booty plugs, hang your most scandalous lingerie in view. Keeping sultry items top of mind keeps sexiness top of mind, too. 
 

bring back mutual masturbation

Maybe this time, though, your partner is in charge of the play by play and you have to execute how, when and where you touch yourself according to their demands. 

order room service

When that hunger hits, use it as a luscious way to play with, well, role play. Whether it’s a sexy maid or a dungeon mistress, who wheels in the trolly and what’s on the menu… roll with it… Or if you're feeling super creative, make a menu in advance and let your lover order what they want.

gaze at the stars

Transform an outdoor area, be it a balcony or a backyard, into a garden of Eden filled with earthly pleasures. Think, throw cushions, candles, fairy lights, outdoor games sex mat, your imagination gone wild…

cue up a saucy movie

Evoke that naughty hotel room vibe with a pulse-racing selection of X-rated visual feasts. Whether you watch it together, or leave it playing in the background, feel transported…

leave your keys (and phone) in the bowl by the door

Turn off your phones unless you’re using them to order food or take sexy selfies. Stash your keys, too, and mentally tell yourself you're not escaping.

ban the To Do's

The only thing you have to “do” this weekend, is each other. Early, often, on every surface.

restrain them

If that's in your arsenal of play, switch up the method used. Silk ties, belts, handcuffs, lace, your panties, theirs. 

blindfold them

The only mandate is that you don't do what you've done in the past. Massage a new area, try a new toy, edge them in a different way, work in a new position. Whatever is expected is off the menu.

work the mirrors

Reposition your mirrors throughout house to make good use of angles and create more or different ways to play. Put one in the bathroom, angle one by the bed, the couch, the kitchen counter, wherever you can get a new view.
 

curate the convo

No work talk, no kid talk, no talking about anything other than what inspires you, stirs you, stimulates you, pleasures you, delights you, teases you, pleases you, titillates you, tickles you, touches you, crushes you…

hang the ‘do not disturb’ sign

Whether it’s locking the doors, shutting the blinds, shipping the kids to grandmas, sending the dog to day care, do what you need to do to make sure there’s no intrusion on your getaway time.

set the perfect temps

Make sure your space is warm enough to play, and cool enough to make you want to build heat. For more advanced temperature play, chill your favorite playthings in the fridge or heat up your massage candles, vibes, towels and more so they feel different against your skin.

create a 5-star sensory experience

Add instant luxury with feathery-soft throw cushions, faux-fur blankets, shearling rugs, plush pillows… the more tactile, the better.

sweat.

Working out bumps up testosterone and gives you reasons to play, touch, work together, connect, not to mention it stretches your muscles for all those bendy sex positions you'll take on later.

learn something luscious

Whether it's porn on demand, a sex workshop, a book on sex tips, coffee table books within inspirational imagery… keep your brain and body stimulated with some new ways to explore each other and your talents.

How do you prep for a sexy staycation weekend of love, lust, play, passion + surprise?