take our 30-day sex challenge + unlock lust in your life (handcuffs not included)
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Published Sept 4, 2021
try this sex challenge + ignite what stirs in you
We know what you're thinking: what the fuck, it's not the new year, I don't have time to be a new me. This isn't that kind of challenge. We've got 30 juicy, pleasure-filled ideas below that can help you ignite a little something new between the sheets (or wherever you get your fvck on). Bring your own experience level to the party and adjust the prompts to fit where you are on your journey and in your day-to-day life. Test-drive one, two or all of the prompts below to see what you can unleash and if you’re too shy to try anything, you can always give it a shot and blame it on the challenge. If you're already living a pretty delicious sex life, find places to mix up your routine. Disclaimer: We can't guarantee you'll weigh less, be a better human or live your best life, but fingers crossed (and legs uncrossed), you'll have a fuck-ton of fun along the way.
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sex challenge:
book an hour with your favorite client — YOU.
No devices, no phones, no distractions, other than your hands, feet, eyes, senses, etc. Get intimate with your body and explore new things it likes.
sex challenge:
start a yoni egg practice.
Do we really need a laundry list of benefits to enjoy what feels good (and may give you epic orgasms)?
sex challenge:
explore some porn.
We’re into sex-positive, storytelling porn, like the juicy work of Erika Lust or the social sex platform MakeLoveNotPorn. If videos aren’t your thing, explore blogs, magazines, coffee table books or erotic lit to find something new what turns you on.
sex challenge:
become your own pin-up.
Dress up in your favorite, erotic gear — or nothing at all — for an at-home boudoir shoot and take some artistic, avante-garde snaps of you at your most sensual and deliciously hot. Then, drink in all that gorgeousness....
sex challenge:
hone your erotic ear.
Find what songs, poems, literature, guided meditations whet your appetite and get your juices flowing.
sex challenge:
learn the art of erotic foot massage.
Would you rather spend 10 minutes at the end of the day giving yourself a highly erotic, deliciously erogenous massage or, say, mindlessly doomscroll? Consider this an investment strategy in future negotiations with lovers.
sex challenge:
go down the IG (rabbit) hole.
Follow hashtags, sex therapists, sex poets (read: noopface), sex positive enthusiasts. Having their messages, inspo and imagery pop into your feed throughout the day will help inspire your own juicy fantasies.
sex challenge:
got lube?
Slick up yourself, your lover, your tools with new varieties until you find a new favorite. This exercise is about the journey, not the destination.
sex challenge:
create your own 7-day panties challenge.
Wear a completely different style every day and expand your lingerie palette…. Thongs, cheekies, high-waisted, g-strings, ouvert, briefs with your mantra printed on the ass, no panties at all... Keep the challenge going till you zero in on the specific style that drives your body wild.
sex challenge:
think outside the vibrator.
There’s world of sex toys out there from couples massagers and strap ons to cock rings and anal plugs. Stretching your boundaries can keep life lusty, even if it’s just swapping out your current vibrator for a new model.
sex challenge:
tie yourself up.
Cuffs, tethers, ribbons… wrap them around ankles, thighs, arms, necks (gentle of course), your ass, and see what new pleasure points respond to pressure. Bonus points if you partner up for play.
sex challenge:
re-position your routine.
All the hail the missionary style — when it’s good, it’s good, but new faves are worth a shot. If you’re short on ideas, open the Kama Sutra to any page and give a different position a whirl. Pro tip: Stretch those hamstrings first.
sex challenge:
tease your nose.
Switch up your everyday fragrance and notice how catching a whiff of an unexpected scent elicits a delightful, teasing surprise. After all, surprise is the secret to sizzling sex.
sex challenge:
uncover scent-ual sex.
Build on yesterday’s olfactory challenge and plan a perfume tasting. Explore which notes specifically arouse your senses — or maybe there’s a symphony of scent that wants to be played out, one body part at a time. See if your partner can find them all.
sex challenge:
unlock what moves you.
While you're tapped into your sensual, erotic flow, experiment with different floral scents, elixirs, essential oils, essence to find what fragrances stir you. Use those scents to help you shift into a more sensual, embodied space whenever you need to slow your pace.
sex challenge:
put the fun back in bathtime.
Awaken your childlike, playful side by making tub time a world of discovery, fun, play, tease and delight. Think sex toys, bubbles, games, orgasms…. And maybe some company…
sex challenge:
take a cue from cinema’s most erotic scenes.
Michele Pfeiffer’s wrist reveal in Age of Innocence, that tango dance scene in Scent of a Woman, when Diane Lane locks eyes with Olivier Martinez in Unfaithful. That scene in Heated Rivalry that rippled through all of us. Take a trip down erotic lane to see what lights your fire.
sex challenge:
play with energy.
Focusing on your connect to yourself, your toys, your partners can lead to deeper, richer, more intimate sex play. For starters, try this energetic trick for full-body orgasms from energy worker, Jamie Butler.
sex challenge:
use your breath.
Holding your breath during sex can stop the flow of energy (and obviously oxygen) and inhibit pleasure and orgasms. Taking deep belly breaths can boost with stamina, heighten your orgasms and extend their ripples through your body.
sex challenge:
get worked up.
It’s not just your imagination that you feel hornier after a bout of exercise. Scientists agree there’s a link between exercise and a boost in genital arousal in women. We think it's science worth testing yourself. Plus, doesn’t it just always feel good to move your body? And then, move your body?
sex challenge:
make the first move.
If your partner is usually the initiator, surprise them (and you!) by taking control. Or, if you’re usually the one in the lead role, play in a more passive, receptive place… and see what other flavors you uncover. If nothing else, the tension will drive you mad (with pleasure).
sex challenge:
discover your fetish, explore your kinks.
High heels? Thigh-highs? Elbow-length gloves? Corsets? Chokers? Whips? Wrist cuffs? Body chains? Backless boxers? Ouvert bras? Sheer catsuits? Find the kink that revs your engine.
sex challenge:
find a new magic hour.
Do you always bang one out in the morning? Are you a Saturday night sex queen? Challenge your circadian rhythms by exploring different times a day… middle of the night, a replacement to your afternoon coffee, post-workout.
sex challenge:
nail a new aphrodisiac.
Whether it’s food (raw chocolate, anyone?), spirits (champs or whiskey, your choice), a scent (jasmine, rose, vanilla…). Invite yourself to explore something sensorial and arousing every day.
sex challenge:
fuck with your head.
Disrupt your patterns (and pleasure) by switching things up. Incorporate a new piece of lingerie, change soundtracks, adjust the lighting, seduce your partner in a whole new way, christen a new part of your house, your car, your backyard.…
sex challenge:
book a night in someone else’s bed.
Staying at a hotel is literally escapism. Use it as an excuse to do something else, be someone else, get messy. Give yourself permission to discover. If nothing else, hotel sex is some of the best sex.
sex challenge:
role play.
Clothes, makeup, hair, voice, talk, tone…. Discover what it’s like to play in someone else’s stilettos…. Uncover something new about yourself by pretending to be someone else.
sex challenge:
do something that scares the shit out of you.
Try the thing you’ve always wanted to try but were too afraid. What’s the worst that could happen? It's like we always say, keep calm and carry a safe word.
sex challenge:
plan a sex-cation.
Whether it’s a vacation or a stay-cation, you’ll be amazed at what a little downtime can whip up, especially when the theme is pleasure and the dress code is optional.
sex challenge:
say what's on your mind.
All those lustful fantasies playing out in your head? Whisper them aloud to yourself, your partner. Say aloud what you want, you need, you crave. Bonus points if you act them out. Double bonus if you can get your partner in on the verbal action.
sex challenge:
laugh.
The obvious reason is that fuck-making is supposed to be fun. Smiling, laughing, playing not only increases intimacy, but can help you ride out the awkward moments when you're test-driving a new partner, position or experience.
Any new fantasies or sexy ideas come to mind? Note them for your next sex challenge.
