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If you want more — passion, love, sex, lust, healing, self-worth — sexual multi-hyphenate Nicole Nawaz will get you there. This adult film creator-turned-sex educator, intimacy coach, sexological bodyworker and sexual healer meets you where you are with the goal of unlocking your pleasure. Her training in erotic development, sexual embodiment and trauma release works on mind, body and spirit so you can get the life, love and lust you deserve. Through 1:1 and couples somatic bodywork, orgasmic yoga, pleasure mapping, body worship, BDSM skills, cuddle sessions, bathing rituals, breathwork, body massage and more. Nawaz's body-based exercises and techniques help you better connect to your intimate self, pack your toolbelt with skills and vibe with the erotic in your world. Follow her on social, snag a workshop via her site or book a 1:1 sesh to get the sex life of your wildest, juiciest dreams.
How do you think your work within the adult film industry has impacted your profession as a somatic sex educator?
I think that it paved away for me. I was able to display my uniqueness in my approach to sex and eroticism, and I was able to create this awesome platform where I have peers and I'm able to dibble and dabble in a couple different communities.
How does being a somatic sex educator differ from your work as a certified sexological bodyworker?
So with my educator stuff, I'm mostly working one-on-one with group classes or webinars and just providing little one-on-one safety classes, things like that. And then my work as a somatic body worker, it's a lot more personal. It's a lot more physical, of course. And this kind of work I'm working with individuals or with couples who are needing a little bit more physical instruction or even physical guidance. So yeah, they're kind of defined in those ways.
So in terms of the people who need instruction, that might be trauma-based or it might just be sort of lack of education or skills-based, is that true?
Exactly. Most of the clients that I do see, it is trauma based, but some of it as well is also just partners needing a little bit more physical application of skill work or even things like guiding them through role play.
You refer to yourself as a sacred sex worker. What does that mean?
Spirituality is a big, big part of what I've felt called to do in sex work, and I think, of course, everything, it's just another label to add to kind of let people know what this is and what this isn't. You have to be ready to do this work. It isn't foreplay, per se. But yeah, just letting them know that this is something that is more sacred. It's going to require more work, it's going to require more vulnerability, and it does require one's ability to believe in something higher than themselves, and really that could just be the power of orgasm, but yeah.
What kind of transformations have you witnessed in clients doing this work?
A lot of them leave a lot more confident in their ability to pursue pleasure on their own or they feel more confident in their skills. Maybe they're like bedroom skills or even skills on approaching partners, some other clients who were with partners, of course, experiencing better experiences when they go home and things like that.
"I often look at creation, whatever it is, as a process of making love to something and then giving birth to whatever the product is."
I know it's individually based, but are these transformations sometimes pretty quick? It can just be a couple of sessions, and then if it's deeper trauma, does it kind of stretch into a more long-term journey?
Yeah, everything is definitely case by case. We work together to plan, and as my sessions are all client-led, continuation is always a conversation and constantly assessing needs and making sure that things are being met within our time together. So things can work out and do work out very often sometimes, and other things, they run their course.
So that's really interesting though, client-led, is that for safety reasons and consent reasons so that the client always feels safe and isn't pressured into doing things that they might not be ready to do?
Exactly. Exactly. Through trauma-informed safety sessions and conversations, you kind of learn a way to give everything as an option, and it helps everyone honestly just become a better advocate for their decisions and their choices.
You said that you believe that spirituality and sex go hand-in-hand, what spiritual rituals might help one discover their deepest pleasures?
I think the simplest one is honestly just looking at sex itself, the act of sex more like a ritual, and from its beginning, its preparation, and just adding the little intention if you are setting it up, the candles, and just inviting that intention, whatever it is that you'd like to experience in the moment or experienced after conceptualizing the act of sex as a ritual, I think can be a great way to invite that spiritual essence.
What other things would be in the ritual?
So I think body oils are a wonderful thing. Incense. Also saying affirmations is very powerful. It is something that I think people are really hesitant about. Maybe they're just not comfortable saying these things, but it can just be as simple as like, you are beautiful. This feels amazing. You are amazing. You feel amazing. Just positive things that you can say to somebody while looking them in their eyes and really meaning it… the more immersed you are, the more transcendent the experience can be.
In what ways is the erotic all around us?
I think just looking at the world and life through the lens of life and death and creation that you see sex and things being made and life being given through this process. And I feel like for myself, it wasn't really until I was a little bit more in tune with nature itself and the elements and just seeing how they work together that I could realize that it's all around us, but it is. And I think just even through that process of creation, it's why it's something that all of us do. I often look at creation, whatever it is, as a process of making love to something and then giving birth to whatever the product is. And I experience that passion, that experience, as the physical act of creating something. And then I have this wonderful product at the end, and I think that's another way of looking at it.
As an artist, when do you know that you are in your sexual and creative flow?
Honestly, the older I get, the more I realize that I'm not really in control having this wonderful pussy that I have, I am extremely connected to the elements, the moon, she does her own thing, and the more that I just flow with her and her process, the easier life is for me.
What are some ways you do that?
So it's like all depending on the different phases of ovulation and menstruation that I'm going through, but usually the week of my cycle, I'm probably really resting and doing minimal feeding into my cravings. And then the week after that, I'm extremely active. So I use that week to schedule, if I have meetings or anything like that, I know the next week I might still be on this work high, so I'm still flowing through it. But the closer I get to my cycle, again, I start to realize that I'm slowing down that last week right before I'm expecting her to come. I get this burst of energy. So I always realize I end up working out around the last week before I'm expecting her, which is great because she doesn't stay for long if I really go for it. But yeah, I just try to notice these things and then work my schedule around her.
How can we live our daily lives in a heightened erotic state?
I would say just go looking for it. Be a little bit more open to it and open yourself to it because it is all around us. We have to see it for what it is, and it takes a broader perspective sometimes.
So then how does that impact life and actions outside of sex?
It allows us, I think, to move with more intention when we're able to see the beauty of the erotic. I even think it's why we call it the erotic and not sex or not porn. It's because it's a little bit more evoking of the emotions and multiple emotions, and I think it's the art of it all.
In what ways does self-exploration like affirmation touching and pleasure mapping help us get into our sexual flow?
They all allow us to be with our feelings and our emotions in the moment. Things like affirmations, they are positive vibrations that bring us the here and now. There are ways that we can speak over ourselves and things like pleasure mapping all give us the tools, the exercises to be present in our bodies and really in tune with what we're feeling, and what our mind is thinking, just being like that.
“I know you want more lover, and more is exactly what you deserve.”
What other exercises can we do to open interior awareness and learn how to make our bodies feel more alive?
Honestly, I feel like we don't speak to our bodies enough, our bodies are this living thing. But yeah, I think speaking to our bodies more and asking our bodies what our bodies want. That can do wonders for us and invite so many different feelings. And maybe pleasure for us if we ask ourselves what we actually want and then give ourselves that.
What does that look like?
You can literally sit, close your eyes, and ask yourself, okay, someone calls you, and they're like, "Hey, you know what? we're going out." Okay, and in the moment it's like, "Okay, let me hurry up, give them an answer." But with all due respect, check in with your body. Check in with what you really actually want to do. So I've done it and I've had friends who've done it, and they're just like, "Hold on, let me check in with my thoughts real quick." And they ask themselves like, "Hey, do we want to go out right now?" And sure enough, you'll get your answer, and it's a true answer because you've asked yourself.
Can you give us a couple of your go-to oral sex tips?
I think there's so many. I would say sometimes we get lost. Well, I'm not going to say who gets lost, but sometimes people get lost in other places in the mouth. And in my experience, I think it's always pretty tantalizing to switch things up and use different places of the mouth to pleasure, even the face. I think when it comes to oral on any body parts, things like your nose, things like your chin or the insides of your cheek, even against your closed teeth, a lot of these places can give different sensations. And I think as long as you're checking in with your partner and you are doing these things cautiously, we can totally explore and maybe give them something else to enjoy.
As a rope play expert, what are a few fun ways that someone could experiment with the extra-long ties on LF bodysuits?
So with the silk ties, I mean, you can definitely of course get into some rope bondage or some even... Yeah, you could totally get into some bondage play with that, restricting the arms, restricting the wrist, even using the ties maybe to tuck in just other places on the body suits or on the pieces, and also use that as a tool to maybe pull someone in closer or have fun with that.
You’ve said that one of your kinks is humiliation. How does this manifest? Verbally, through BDSM? How does this feel empowering for you?
Yes. So it's totally in the BDSM space. For me, it is something that empowers me in the way that I'm able to release any kinds of concept of me having control of me being perfect and I am reminded, and like to be reminded when I'm in that space, that I am not perfect, and that there are things that I just won't be able to do and that I will fail at, and through BDSM, through kink, and of course, time and play with the Doms that I trust, I am able to just be reminded of that. And then of course, told that it's okay, and that is great affirmation for me, and that's my little thing about it.
So would that be where you would set up a scenario with your Dom and it would be like, "Here's the things that work for me. Here's what I would like you to do..." and then at the end, would they reaffirm you or how does that work?
So usually with the Doms that I play with, I can just tell them what it is that I'm looking to experience, what it is maybe that I'm struggling with. They'll, of course, ask me things like how I would like to be affirmed or what are the kinks and things that I'm open to, my boundaries, things like that. And throughout the entire process, I think just because the way that I enjoy playing is a little bit more sensual than it is sadistic. Throughout the entire experience, I'm kind of being affirmed while also being a great sub.
How would you encourage others to embrace aspects of their sexuality that might be seen in a derogatory light?
I definitely say if you are going to go out there, have an intention, maybe possibly think about where this could be coming from and what it is specifically that you are enjoying about this. That way you know where to go and what communities can help you experience this in a safe way or in the way that you want to enjoy it. But yeah, the bigger part is to not be afraid to explore it and definitely seek community because exploring some of these kinks on your own might not be the safest, but you can also open yourself up to so much more experiences, fun, friendships, learning opportunities when you seek community to explore and play.
What is something we can do to honor our bodies during aftercare?
I think spending some time with yourself, hugging yourself, kissing yourself, kissing on yourself. I think, we all enjoy being hugged. Even if it is just by ourselves, embrace, physical touch is a need for us. So I think just the symbolism of us providing that to ourselves for a moment. And of course with the intention and letting ourselves know that we're okay, and also checking in and making sure that we feel okay. I think that can be big for all of us. And I think that it is something that we shouldn't skip anytime.
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