sexy date night ideas to surprise your lover
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date night ideas to spice up that netflix-and-chill
Not in the mood to fight the crowds for over-priced cocktails and impossible dinner reservations to get your pulse racing? When the vibe is right and clothes are optional, why go out when you can stay home and misbehave. Whether you're looking to spice things up, strip things off or find new ways to play, we've got some steamy ideas that will turn your living room into a love den... or sex dungeon. Whatever you choose. Dim the lights, grab your toys and break out the lingerie — all you need now is creativity, consent and a playmate (and a safe word, ofc).
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worship them
Would you rather be standing at a bar waiting for your table or getting down and dirty with a little cock and pussy worship? Shower your lover with insanely long, delicious, verbal and physical spoiling. Use jewelry, fabrics, lubes, hands, lips, foods, breath, your gaze…. all the gifts and cherishing you can give to spoil their jewels like jewels.
try energy play
Take your sexual connection even deeper by teaching your lover any of the deliciously free, luxuriously intimate foreplay techniques from spiritual medium Jamie Butler. They'll take you both to new places and set you up for yummier, more surrendered sex.
make naughty gratitude cards
List all the things you're grateful for that your partner has done or continues to do for you throughout the year... in bed. It's a sexy gateway to dirty talk, so let your freak flag fly.
try on some power play
If power play is in your repertoire, choose a new dynamic — teacher and naughty student, brat and handler, queen and subject — and see where a different scenario takes your pleasure.
spike their dinner
Okay, not really. You do need consent, but how much sexier is a weed-inspired, cannabis-infused happy hour or home-cooked meal?
dress the part of sexy gift
Is there anything they love to see you wear? Sexy heels? Crotchless panties? Hang them where they're visible by day, slip into them at night, slip out of them when they've proven to be nice (or naughty) enough.
star in your own talent show.
Your skill: masturbation. Inspire their voyeuristic side by letting them watch you touch yourself in new ways. Gift them the opportunity to give you “commands” and when you're finished, turn the hand, toy and mouth skills on them
create a mood board, pinterest board or vision board.
Include all the kinkiest, naughtiest imagery you'd like to use as inspiration for your date night. Let them choose what they'd like to receive. Or use those visual cues to create an erotica story or fantasy you'd like to act out.
pull an activity off their sex bucket list.
Don't an item left hanging on their sex bucket list especially if you're in need of inspiration. Is there a fetish they'd like to explore? A sexy little kink that's untapped? These are all places to start mining for that perfect night in.
make a fresh list of Never Have I Ever Questions.
A new list of Qs inspires new places and ways to play. Or if you just want to get straight to the point, we've got a list of 69 questions to better get to know what you both like in bed.Print it, put a bow on it, get down to business.
strip tease with a twist
Wear your sultriest, most peel-off-able lingerie (preferably in layers) and give your lover the slowest, naughtiest lap dance of dreams. Let them watch but, of course, they can't touch. Their punishment for touching? Your choice.
score the look: hotwired corset panty
naked dinner.
Open up your palate and creativity by dining naked by candlelight. We love starting prep work naked as well but if you're worried that you won't actually make it to the feast, just have a finger foods ready before you strip.
make them your sex slave (or vice versa).
If this their kink, dedicate the day to making them do what you want (or conversely, you play the role of submissive).
turn your home into a hotel.
Turn date night into a sexy weekend of “hotel sex” without leaving the house. Part of the fun of sex between hotel sheets is the novelty so do what you can turn your space into something that looks, feels and fucks a little differently. Think mood changers like lighting, scents, foods, textures and more.
make a tool kit of homemade sex toys
Wooden spoons, spatulas, feathers, what can you turn into a mini play box of exploration and discovery?
download free sex tips + tricks.
So many sex experts and sex toy makers offer free workshops or sex classes, download better-sex tips and more. Create your own book of To Do's for endless date night fun.
DIY bondage
No restraints, no problem. Use scarves, belts, silk ties, play straps — whatever is lying around — to tie your lover's wrists or ankles to the bed, the furniture, your body.
play a little tease + denial
Create a list of "teases" (nibbles, whispered dirty talk, a little striptease) and a list of denials (holding off pleasure, refusing a touch). Take turns choosing from the list and see how tease + denial heats you up.
make them your sex slave (or vice versa).
If this their kink, dedicate the day to making them do what you want (or conversely, you play the role of submissive).
give a yummy erotic massage
You don't need to be a pro to give a masterful massage. Set the mood, get a few tools and focus on delivering pleasure vs getting it right. Warning: Don't blame us if your partner only wants date nights at home.
What are some of your sexiest date night ideas? Drop your ideas below.
