you blindfolded them. now what? 27 ways to play
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blindfolded and ready to play: 27 ways to surprise and seduce
Blindfolds are the missionary sex of kink. Everyone knows what they are. Everyone thinks they've got them all figured out.
Step 1: Put it on. Step 2: Have sex. Congratulations you've successfully learned "Blindfolds." Unfortunately that's exactly like thinking you've mastered missionary sex when you've only done it exactly one way.
Personally, we think the blindfold isn't basic, it's just got a branding problem. When you really think about how much power this tiny little piece of fabric holds — the ability to rearrange your attention, amplify sound, intensify touch, stretch time, shift control — suddenly it makes little things like ice cubes or silk gloves or breath work become far more interesting.
Because blindfolds are both under-used and misunderstood, most of us underestimate what they're capable of. But when you think of them not as a kinky tool to hide your eyes, but more like what they really are — a gateway to unlock the rest of the night — you turn fabric into a power tool.
So yes, blindfolds are the missionary sex of kink.
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1. give them a blindfolded erotic massage.
Fingers, hands, elbows, feet, breasts... your entire body becomes a tool for touch. Build their anticipation by varying speed, pressure and sensation to keep them ignited. If impact play is part of the menu, add spanks and rewards. Tell them what you're going to do, then make them wait for it. Ask them what they want, then make them beg for it.
Dress them in something you can slowly slip, unzip or untie them out of to make body-to-body massage even more deliciously slow and irresistible.
2. rev them up with erotic ear candy.
Think ASMR like sensual breathing, juicy kissing, orgasmic pleasure, that low moan when you land on just the right spot. Hit up YouTube for ideas + videos then find what erotic sounds turn them feral.
3. let them undress you (without their eyes).
They're blindfolded and you're wearing a luxurious little something they've never seen before. Invite them to linger over textures they love — lace, leather, silk, metal — let them guess what you're wearing as you guide their touch.
Think of your body as the playground and your lingerie as the equipment their fingers get to play with. Reach for a play piece like our Deja Vu 11, a treasure map turned bodysuit. Trace where harness straps lead. Give a little snap of elastic at the hips. Is the metal hardware cold from being chilled in the fridge or warmed by your skin? Is the lace floral, snake-like, soft...? Where does fabric end and skin begin?
4. dance with them blindfolded.
Create a playlist that submits your bodies into the notes. Sink into beats and let them guide the two of you in moving together. Sensually, naughtily, romantically, happily. Your music, your mood, your connected movement.
pro tip: make your reveal delicious
5. blindfold them + read them erotica.
With their sight hidden and sound amplified, your voice becomes their fantasy. Read a sensual story aloud, make one up as you go or pull a plot line from your imagination. Whisper it into their ear as you bring it to life.
6. dial up the deprivation.
They can’t see, so what if you also gave them earplugs to pair with the blindfold? Muffled sound can heighten their other senses like smell and touch and keep them in that sexy state of anticipation. Now you get to play with scents on your wrists or in your hair. Explore how, when and where you touch.
7. play with temperatures.
Trace their skin with ice cubes. Wrap their feet in warm towels. Use heated massage oils or cool metal toys. Play with different temperatures in different part of the body at the same time.
Style them in zippered lingerie, like our made-to-play Zip Tease tank, that's been waiting for them in the refrigerator. Think cool fabrics and cold metal. Maybe then you add in warmed massage oils. (Note: always test temperatures before using on skin and check in with partner on what's too hot or cold. Safe words are your friend.)
8. add a soundtrack.
Choreograph the mood and their arousal with music that mimics your movements. Hard and fast? Slow and hypnotic? Naughty and grindy? The right beat can take them deeper. Describe how you're moving to the rhythm. The right beat can take them deeper.
9. reward them with treats.
Blindfolded, taste becomes foreplay. Feed them the juiciest fruit, stickiest honey, fluffiest whipped cream or drippiest chocolate from your fingertips — or your mouth. Don't forget to tempt their lips, their tongue, their skin as you play. Reward good behavior, take treats away when they simply can't behave.
We love to pair taste play with our Moonstruck Backless Boxers or Peepshow Ouvert Panties for a decadent twist on dessert.
10. blindfold them then worship their cock, pussy or booty.
Let your mouth do the work while they listen. Without sight, your voice, your hands, your breath, everything they hear and feel becomes heightened. Adore them, cherish them, devote your attention to the parts of them that might never have been seen.
11. incorporate aphrodisiac scents.
Drip a few drops of essential oil-based massage oils everywhere you want to be kissed. Use aphrodisiac incenses and body scents to change the mood, surprising them with new scents or alternating between spicy, floral, woodsy to heighten arousal.
12. kiss them all over.
Use their body as an erotic map, explore places you've never been, uncover new erogenous zones. Vary your style, your pressure, your lips versus tongue, your location to awaken every inch of their body.
13. add some dirty talk.
Tell them what you want them to do. Describe what you’re doing in luxuriously filthy detail. Make them beg for just a peek.
Use your lingerie to unlock your wildest inner narrator. Slip a little lipstick or lip liner in the secret pocket of our Rider bra to draw your naughtiest word onto their skin.
14. trade kisses for tickling.
Instead of kissing them, tickle their skin and erogenous zones with your breath, your fingers, a feather, some silk. Be relentlessly slow and gentle (this isn’t “tickle torture” unless they specifically put that on the menu.)
15. share a fantasy.
What naughtiness has your mind been holding back? Whisper your wildest dreams into their ear... a new position, a tool from your sex bucket list, a little trick with your tongue? Seduce them with explicit detail and let their imagination go off.
16. bathe them.
Turn your space into a blindfolded sex spa with bubbles, sexy oils, waterproof toys, textured sponges, an erotic playlist. Hide their eyes, immerse them in hot suds and make the experience as long, lingering and sudsy as they can take.
17. give them a role-play scenario.
Teacher/student. Muse/artist. Goddess/devotee. Then take the lead. Incorporate other games into the storylines like temperature, texture or food play.
18. just add restraints.
Sure they’re already blindfolded, but why not up the ante with handcuffs, silk ties or bondage tape to increase their anticipation (and vulnerability) while creating a kinky canvas for you both to play.
pro tip: give their hands lingerie to explore
19. hunt down the [insert food here].
Drip, drizzle or swipe something edible on your body (think chocolate sauce, a brandied cherry, a ripe piece of mango flesh) and let them find it with their mouth.
20. edge them toward orgasm (+ take it away).
Start. Stop. Start again. Build anticipation with edging, that slow build and backing off of orgasm. It turns a sexy kink into a whole new level of anticipation.
21. tease them with texture.
Reach into your toolbox of toys and playthings to drag over their skin and erogenous zones to see if they can guess what’s stroking them. Your fingernails? A feather? Some silk or rope? A frozen strawberry? A brush? Your hair…
22. paint their body.
Use body-safe paint, CBD chocolate sauce, your favorite whipped cream to write messages on their skin and see what they can decipher.
23. make them your pet.
Stroke them. Pet them. Guide them. Command them. Make them beg for what they want. Add a collar or leash to drag them around the house if that's your thing.
24. gift them a new toy.
Give them a surprise vibe, the strap-on they've been eyeing, a new lube and let them guess what it is by feel alone.
Use our Fingerless Opera Gloves to secure the wrapping paper or simply slide them over your legs (or theirs) for extras surprise and delight.
25. bring a friend.
If a threesome's on the table (or floor or counter...), let the surprise hands, lips and mouths drive them wild.
26. work that booty.
Start with a massage. Play with the perineum. Move slowly into anal touch and prostrate play if that’s in the shared yes zone.
27. make an impact.
Spank. Thump. Tap. Try different rhythms to surprise and arouse.
Switch places + you wear the blindfold instead. See what you can uncover about yourself.
