kink curious? explore 10 different kinks for beginners + pros

Kink doesn’t have to be intimidating. If you’re not sure whether it’s for you, it’s easy to dip your toes in without jumping into the deep end… then wade in further if you so desire.  Here are a few kinks to explore if you’re interested in adding something new to your sex life, ranging from the mildest to the spiciest.

Kink 1: Exhibitionism

sexual gratification through being watched 

beginner kink:

surprise your partner by greeting them in a sexy piece of lingerie 

intermediate kink:

send a partner a photo of you touching yourself, stripping or posing seductively 

advanced kink:

show everything off on a nude beach or clothing-optional resort

Kink 2: Voyeurism

sexual gratification through the act of watching 

beginner kink:

watch porn or social sex with a lover 

intermediate kink:

ask a partner to film themselves for you

 advanced kink:

attend a sex party and observe all the X-rated play in person 

Kink 3: Technosexuality 

sexual activity involving technology 

beginner kink:

use a vibrator on yourself — or have a partner use one on you — during sex 

intermediate kink:

have a partner use an app-controlled vibrator on you from a distance

 advanced kink:

invest in a sex machine that will do the dirty work for you 

Kink 4: Temperature play

playing with hot and cold sensations

beginner kink:

run ice cubes over each other’s bodies

intermediate kink: 

warm or heat up sex toys by placing them in water of your desired temperature (some are also freezable or microwavable) 

advanced kink:

bring a massage candle into the bedroom and rub each other (or yourself) with the melted wax

Kink 5: Restraint  

tying/being tied up  

beginner kink: 

tie each other to the bedpost with a sash or tie 

intermediate kink: 

play with a pair of handcuffs (just make sure you don’t lose the key!) 

advanced kink: 

get a shibari rope and a guidebook or join an class to learn how to make fancy knots

Kink 6: Impact 

using force to create sensations

beginner kink: 

spank your partner or get spanked, starting with the lightest touch and working upward 

intermediate kink: 

get a flogger and drag it across each other’s skin, using more force if desired  

advanced kink: 

use a spanking paddle, being very careful to start slowly

Kink 7: Domination and submission 

playing with power and control

beginner kink:

have one partner order the other around (“get on your back,” “spread your legs,” etc.) 

intermediate kink:

play with orgasm denial (“you can’t cum until I say you can”) 

advanced kink: 

role-play a scene involving power dynamics, like teacher/student or boss/employee

Kink 8: Group sex 

sex with more than two people 

beginner kink: 

watch a cam show with a partner and see how you like having someone else virtually present 

intermediate kink:

invite another sexy human to watch you two have sex 

advanced kink:

have the other person join in if the chemistry is right 

Kink 9: Dirty talk 

speaking to each other in ways that are arousing 

beginner kink: 

tell each other what words and phrases get you going, and pull them out in the bedroom (here’s a list of options or try these ready-to-send downable dirty texts) 

intermediate kink: 

sext each other throughout the day to build anticipation 

advanced kink: 

write erotic stories and whisper them into each other’s ears

Kink 10: Praise kink 

getting off on being praised 

beginner kink:

moan, groan and tell each other when something feels good (which you should probably be doing anyway) 

intermediate kink: 

stand in front of a mirror with your partner behind you and have them point out everything they love about your body

advanced kink:

have your partner show you off to a friend or other third party and tell them what a good girl you are  

How do you take your favorite kinks up or down a notch?