sex party for 2: your sex date checklist, fuck buddy not included
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your sex date is the only sure thing tonight. here's the rest of the playbook
When everything on your date night is optional except the sex, your agenda is locked: maximize pleasure and minimize the “oh fuck, I forgot's. Anticipation starts now. Here's what to pack, how to dress and how to build a little lust, desire and passion before the main event, so you can ensure the sure thing really is a sure thing.
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sex date: prep
mini speakers
Prep a sexy playlist to set the mood — your mood — then stash a set of portable speakers for creating discreet ambiance wherever you are…. beaches, backyard, terrace, rooftop, car top.
a luxury leather bra moves from day to play to after party
stock up on edible aphrodisiacs
Trade the sad, played-out charcuterie board for something that stains your fingers, drips down your wrists, makes you pause between bites or requires hand-feeding your lover. Figs. Cherries. Chocolate. Oysters if you're feeling ambitious....
update your cocktail cart
Keep your bar cart stocked with a variety of whatever makes you say yes to one more sip, one more story and one more hour of anticipation before bed.
gift yourself a pre-game soak
Add salts, oils, bubbles, scrubs, rose petals, the works. Sexy myth: legend has it that Aphrodite named the rose after her son Eros making it the sexiest, most erotic of flowers. Regardless, petals + bubbles + tub time shifts you into that pre-game mood.
prime your erotic engine
The best sex dates don't start with the sex date. Start building anticipation hours earlier. Sweat. Stretch. Get a massage. Listen to a playlist that makes your pulse pick up, your hips move. Arrive at the date already halfway there.
prep your power source
Crystal yoni eggs are optional but muscle work? Nope. If you want to feel seriously tighter, stronger and more aroused, work some vaginal weights into your personal foreplay. Ten minutes and you're primed.
sex date: pack
wear our deja vu 11 bodysuit with or without harness. your mood, your style.
find a sex date fit that won't quit
Slip date-night lingerie under your sexiest fit (if you're going out) or pack it for after-hours play. Think bodysuits with built-in harnesses or restraints, bustiers with zip-off cups for tease or lacy lingerie sets that beg their fingers to lingerie, touch and play.
pack (or stash) some mini lube
Stash some mini lubes to whet your appetite and theirs. If your bodysuit or bra has a hidden pocket (like our Champagne 33 bodysuit or Rider Balconette Bra), it's a good excuse to keep your lingerie on while you play.
our rider balconette bra features a small inner pocket to stash secrets
don't forget the condoms
Bring your own. Don't outsource this to a penis.
curate your accessories
Pack for the mood you're hoping to create. A feather tells one story. A flogger another. A sex toy tucked into your clutch says, "I'm optimistic."
clean up on aisle 6…
When your lover leaves a “deposit”, we love the insanely genius Dripsticks by Awkward Essentials that remove all messy, post-sex evidence that he was even there.
your skimpiest panties require extra discretion
stash a panty to-go
Your exit strategy is in the bag with our deliciously soft Ubi thongs and panties, packed in a discreet sleeve so you can feel good after feeling good. We love having a spare for the morning after (or whenever) so you can move to the next adventure without going commando.
ubi morning-after panties with clutch-sized, to-go sleeve
sex date: to-do list
sex toy buffet
If you're staying home, lay out some kinky toys and see what your fuck buddy is up for — it’s a good opportunity to chat consent, boundaries, preferences…. even if they're a long-time lover.
role play
Do you usually take the lead? Do you always play the same roles? Switch it up. Your sex dates should be anything but routine.
book new sex digs
One of our favorite sex-date aficionados swears by the seediest (and, yes, cleanest), by-the-hour hotel in town. Floor-to-ceiling (and ceiling) mirrors. Tile floors. Questionable Yelp reviews. Unquestionably unforgettable.
change up the rules
If you're sex dating with the same partner, keep it fresh by creating new rules to the game. Blindfolds only? Only lips with tied up hands? No lips, only hands? Do you take turns stripping off a piece of clothing to keep it insanely slow and luscious?
test-drive something from your bucket list
Sex dates are prime time for play. Is there a new sex position you've been stretching your hamstrings for? A tongue move your g-spot has been fantasizing about? Ask for what you want.
start out in the wild
A sex club, a sex party, cabaret, burlesque. Treat yourself to some voyeuristic pre-gaming to build up anticipation even more.
When your sex date is a sure thing, what are you packing?
