14 erotic upgrades for a richer sex life (cue the vision board)
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does your sex life need better sex? we got you.
Looking for ways to squeeze more juice out of (or into?) your sex life? We've got some mostly easy-to-implement play starters that will help stir your mood and ignite your creativity. Add your own personality and preferences to the below ideas and get your party started.
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share what you're afraid to share
If you're partnered up, share one thing you really want to try (Lotus kama sutra pose, anyone?) that you've been holding back on. A sex position, a kink, a fantasy, a juicier way to kiss.
pussy gazing
Whether it's you and your mirror or you and a partner... experts say taking in your most precious view increases intimacy, comfort, personal power and more.
stroke practice
Working out those hip moves for riding dick helps keep hips flexible, move energy in your body, stir arousal and increase confidence whether or not actual dick riding is on your agenda.
naked [insert activity here]
Naked yoga is definitely a thing. if it's not your thing, make up your own sexy naked activity... could be as simple as naked cocktail hour or a no-clothes Saturday. We love pair a (nearly) naked sex weekend with kink-coded luxury accessories that may or may not come off.
other types of orgasms
Anal, nipple, throat, there's a whole host of orgasmic potential beyond the G-spot. Hunt yours down and as long as you stay in your pleasure, not your brain, practice is the practice.
edging...
but this time, see if you can take them or yourself to the brink without orgasming for days at a time.
look like someone else
Wigs, a new lipstick, a fuck-off heel you'd never wear, a sexy-ass bodysuit that hugs all your curves, body paint, a mask. Looking different can make you feel different and bring new game, excitement and passion to your play time.
leash them
You can tie or handcuff your lover to the bed — we love using the removable silk ties on our Champagne Room 33 Bodysuit to restrain wrists, ankles and more. You can give them a little leash to roam, explore, tease. See what happens when they have room to play (or provoke). Which role do you like better?
safe word
Got one? If not, talking about it with your partner opens the door for the types of kink you'd like to add to your sex life. If you've already got one, dust that baby off.
spontaneous oral
…on a hike, in a bar bathroom, at the beach, in a driveway or parking lot, it's the ultimate surprise and delight.
silence or... screaming
Switch up your vocals in bed. If you're normally loud, try being silent AF. And if you're pretty quiet, test-drive that dirty talk or at least some yummy, toe-curling, neighbor-waking moans.
sex parties
Sure, you might not find one today, but you ease into it grabbing a drink at a sex club or sex dungeon while you scope the scene or joining a virtual sex party.
energy play
If you haven't worked with your own energy or a partner's, put it on your weekend sex menu. We love jamie butler's tips for full-body, energy-based orgasms and partner play.
head massage
Sure, who doesn't love a good ol' foot, ass, breast, yoni or cock massage? But there's something super-erotic about slow, sensual head rub.
bonus: sex life makeover
How do you tackle any goal that seems overwhelming? Break it into pieces… sign up for a sex-life workshop that spans a few months so you really unpeel new layers of who you are, your sensual moods, your unexplored kinks, what stirs your soul.
How do you spice up your sex life when you're in a sex rut?
