No one likes regrets, especially in bed. The idea is that when you're coming from a place of your truth, the experience elevates whether sex is solo or partnered. Check out some of the things we think you won't regret — and share your own below.
(Of course, all of this is assuming consent, trust, safety, communication, etc.)
worshipping their pvssy/cock
There's a reason this practice (aka yoni/lingam worship) has been around for thousands of years. The idea is that honoring, admiring, respecting, celebrating and giving power (aka worshipping) your partner's pvssy/cock is not just sexy, it boosts both partner's confidence, power, connection and arousal. It can also shift everyday sex into a more sacred, spiritual space because you're savoring your partner, and orgasm becomes the cherry on top of the pleasure cake.
letting your senses keep you in the moment
Yes, by now we all know we're supposed to stay in the moment, but try letting your senses guide you. Instead of getting lost in your head, focus on where your skin connects with theirs, what their fingers (and yours) feel like, what your mouth feels like on theirs. Same with what you see, taste, smell, hear... their curves, the scent of their hair, their moans, whispers and breath.
using a fvck-ton of lube
Want messy, yummy, super-wet sex? Just add lube. Every sexologist and sex guru will tell you that lube isn't just for dry vag's anymore (that's a myth, ICYMI). It's yummy for pvssy penetration and mandatory for anal play.
This one's for both of you... the more you compliment your partner on how they look, what they're doing that feels good to you, and how they're showing up, the more they show up and the more you stay present, engaged, satisfied.
becoming your set designer
When you set the scene for romance, lust, passion, you instantly shift the ambiance and the mood. Think incense, candles, sheets, music… especially if you’re down to role play. How can you turn your space into the fantasy you’re creating?
reinventing your kiss
Insert more play, more passion. Think bites, nibbles, whispers, moans. And, of course, new locations beyond the lips.
getting freaky, your way
Don't put off til tomorrow what you can do today, including handcuffs, paddles, feathers, strap-ons, collars or that [insert toy here] your pvssy has been DMing you about.
using their love language
Let who they are outside the bedroom inform how you treat them between the sheets. Gifts, acts of service, extra time… all translate to passion, foreplay and sex. For instance, if they love presents, surprising them with a new toy might be the perfect way to kickoff the night (or day).
dressing the part
You don’t have to go full-on role play to let your lingerie inspire your mood (but you certainly can…). If you love the feel of PJ pants on your legs, dress them up in scrumptious thigh highs or yummy leg warmers instead to see how it changes your mindset and arouses your body.
making a lot of fvcking noise
Turns out, more moaning, more groaning, more [insert your passion sound effect here], the more you let down your guard, according to sexologist Dr. Emily Morse. She points to research that says the more noise you make, the lower your inhibitions. (For clarity, these are vocal sounds, not a hip-hop air horn.)
slowing the fvck down
What’s the rush, hit those pleasure centers and hunt for new ones. Move too fast and you speed right through the juicy details.
… of your pleasure, of your communication, of positions, of places. See what happens when you show up in your power.
blocking out distractions
Turn off your phone, block out the calendar, remove the pressure of time and let yourself (and your partner) have the freedom to make play last 5 minutes or 5 hours.
disrupting your routine
We’re all about scheduling sex, but not about scheduling it the same way every time. Can you make a challenge out of a different place, move, trick, technique, position every day for a week, a month…? (Hint: yes you can.)
refusing to "fake it"
The clock has been ticking, you might start to feel the pressure of pretending to orgasm just to get it over with... not in 2022. If you're ready to tap out (we get it, unlike you, the laundry won't do itself), you've got options: tell your partner what you need to get you there, get yourself there and let your partner watch or if you're not in the headspace, let them know. Faking it just means you'll get that same action next time, you'll stay unsatisfied and you'll both miss an opportunity.
following your curiosities
You don't always have to know what the finish line looks like to explore what peaks your interest, arouses your body (or booty) or makes you want to know more. Sure, you may find out something isn't your taste or speed, but then you know not to put it on repeat.
lowering your inhibitions
Weed, a cocktail, meditation, slowing your pace... however you de-stress and open your heart, mind and body to arousal, take time to make sure you're in the mood.
put the zzz in sexxxxzzz (🤷♀️).
Sometimes getting your Zzzz's is sexier, more empowering and more delicious than fvcking itself. Especially if you're wrapped up in each other's bodies.
So you missed spinning class, make up for it in bed. Just give your partner (or vibe) a head's up that you're coming in hotttt. Don't forget the survival kit (water, granola bars/cannabis cookies, lube, sex blankets, sweat bandanas ;)
How do you ensure no regrets in the bedroom? Drop your tips, lunatics👇💋