14 powerful prompts for more passion, thrills + sponteneity
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use these powerful prompts to spark better sex, more play, juicier fun
We've said it before and we'll say it again, we're not one thing so why should we limit ourselves to what we already we've already discovered about ourselves or the characteristics that come from the titles and roles we take on? Once we settle in to what we "know" about ourselves, it's easy to let autopilot sink in.
What if we stopped the cycle of going through the motions and instead, lived in the moment, embraced the unknown and let ourselves be ignited, thrilled and passionate about our lives? What if we could arm ourselves with powerful prompts that helped remind us that a sexy, spontaneous, joyful life is always ready for us to create? Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you open to more play and inspire your own set of questions.
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I.
What’s a new pick-up line you'd like to test drive… (to give or take)?
Make it naughty, make it sincere, make it playful... passionate, awkward, fun. If you're partnered up, try it on over some new role play. Or, it could simply just be your smile.
II.
What gets you to swipe right… on anything?
What makes you lean in? Take notice? Hunger a little more? Start noticing what drives you and bonus points if you can ID whether they motivate you out of passion and lust or out of habit?
III.
What's your erotic blueprint?
Do you know your sensual or sexual style? How your erotic body likes to play — or not? Take the quiz (filled with powerfully juicy prompts) to learn more ways to express your bedroom style. Find ways to outfit your style — assless boxers, anyone? — and accessorize it with toys, textures, food, music to invite that part of you to come out to play.
IV.
What makes me laugh uncontrollably, awkwardly, deeply?
Sometimes we get so caught up in the routine of life that we stop living — and laughing. But laughter and play are just really shades of joy and what are we doing if we're not enjoying ourselves. Laughing your ass off is also one of the quickest ways to shift a mood. What can you do now to add some laughter in? And if you can't think of a single thing, that's your To Do list this weekend. Find laughter.
V.
What routines are you able to switch up and make a little sexier starting now?
Have you eaten the same breakfast for 326 straight days? Do you do the same workout every day? Wear the same outfits on repeat? Check your phone the second you wake and then autopilot the rest of your morning? Instead of checking your phone first thing, can you tell yourself how you're going to slay your day? Can you slip in a quickie either solo or with the. person next to you? Can you style a new powersuit? Start IDing ways to disrupt your patterns to fire up new ways to create your day.
VI.
What do you save for "special occasions"?
Lingerie? Expensive wine? Dishes? Sex toys? What if life is the special occasion and all those things you save can be put into rotation just because you're alive and you're worth it. Start un-saving what you love and indulging when the moment inspires you.
VII.
What's your lingerie style?
Soft cotton? Virginal white? Pussy red? All of the above? Discover your personal sweet spot, your unique style, that dials up your hunger. Maybe there’s one for every day of the week? Maybe it changes with the seasons? Uncover what makes you feel insanely delicious from the inside out.
VIII.
What would [X icon] do, wear, be?
Make yourself the hero/heroine of your own life. Take your favorite movie or book plot, put yourself in the starring role and rewrite the script of your life. How do you carry yourself? Who’s standing beside you (or lying underneath you or bending you over to smack that ass.... but we digress)? How do you walk, talk, eat, dress….. Use this to visualize
IX.
Does what you’ve been doing really make you feel juicy and alive?
We all change by the minute, hour and day, let alone by the year. It’s likely that what’s worked for in the past might not fit who you are today. Really interrogate your sex routines and look for places you might be bored. Routine is the killer of discovery. PS it’s also good for the “plasticity” of your brain to mix it up. See, it’s not sex, it’s science.
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Have you put yourself in the spotlight?
What's something you can do that let's you shine, speaks your truth or stretches you into taking centerstage? Is an activity that you didn't want to do alone? An assignment you want to take on at work? A power piece of clothing that wears like inspirational armor?
Try on new things and discover the thrill of going somewhere you may have not gone before — the spotlight.
XI.
How can I make myself feel deliciously alive right now?
Do you love black towels, vetiver candles, musk perfume, silk sheets, lace bathrobes, garter belts, yoni eggs for breakfast, champagne for lunch, club music while you work, yoga in your skimpiest bra and panties, coffee on your stoop as you watch the world go by? It takes just seconds to shift your mood or turn an autopilot moment into a thrill.
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When was last time you fucked somewhere other than your bed?
A hotel, a different room, a new surface...? Somewhere more public? Somewhere less expected? Spontaneity doesn't have to be a big ordeal, it can simply be moving with your intuition in the moment. If now isn't that moment, put some new places to play on your bucket list and knock them out when you feel called.
XIII.
What’s the one thing you're a rockstar at in the bedroom?
Think outside the *box*... do you have the stamina of an Olympian? Are you super bendy? Are you deliciously curious or fearless? Are you savagely hungry? Can you talk dirty with the best of them? Is your kissing technique straight outta the Valley? Can your kegels make grown men (or strap-ons) cry? Do you like to play? Get kinky? Be sensual? Be meditative? How can you turn your go-to into something new to keep your personal spark alive?
XIV.
When was the last time you updated your yummiest, sexiest, most yoni-rocking fantasy?
It's amazing to have a go-to fantasy that gets you in the mood. Also... it's fun to explore ways to evolve that fantasy to explore more parts of your pleasure. Can you go deeper? Be more playful? Invite more play? If you're stuck, stretch your mind with erotica, sexy music, play dates with yourself.
How will you experiment with powerful prompts to spark more joy, passion and play? What prompts work for you? Drop your inspo in the comments section.
