power moves: 15 ways to feel unapologetically sexy for you (not them)

written by: lunatic femme

time to read 5 min

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We'll say it again, your pleasure is all about you and absolutely nothing is sexier. Turn off the phone or [insert distraction here] and try some easy tips for shifting into your pleasure zone so you feel your sexiest.

You’re at your hottest when you feel at your hottest… when feel strong, joyful, passionate, juicy, playful [insert the feeling that gets you there]. You’re ignited and tapped into your sensual and creative flow and into the moment. Forget owning the room, you own your mood, your mindset and your power.

When you’re in that space, that sense of limitlessness and unstoppability and fire, nothing is sexier than you authentically living in your body and taking up all the space you need. This is where the adventure starts. Bliss, love, lust and passion replace autopilot. The to-do lists become easier, the stress seems less stressful, the grind less grindier.

If you’re ready to turn up the heat on you, try a few of these effortless power moves to start to feeling your sexiest in your body. Yes, they’re simple strategies, but they work like magic.

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1. Adjust the tempo.

Don’t take bedroom cues from Hollywood or the Valley unless you can climax in under 60 seconds with zero foreplay. And, is that really the goal? In reality, that’s not how most women are wired and it's certainly not going to help you get into the moment and your body. Slow their roll and let the pressure, intensity and experience build for both of you.

2. Cultivate your own touch.

Explore with your fingertips, your nails, the palms of your hand, the heel of your foot, your toe…. Wear a blindfold to activate your senses... Discover what movement, what tempo, what pace, what pressure titillates you. Become an expert in the art of touching, moving, arousing your own body, and we guarantee, they’ll be taking tips and pointers and learning to give you as much pleasure as you give yourself.

3. Understand your body.

Most of us haven’t made the time to really get to know what makes us — our bodies — feel sexy. We get it, there’s a thing called life. But use this as your sign to spend a little more time digging into what gets your hips grinding, your skin tingling, your mouth watering just a touch. Maybe you trace your fingers over your calves and thighs when you stretch. Maybe you notice what fabrics tickle your skin and which ones don't. What activities or toys or fashion make your curious? And even if it’s just a for a few minutes, discover something new.

4. Have a sexy something in your ear.

Maybe it’s that sexy song that always takes you away to your special place. Maybe it’s that voice [an actor/actress, an ad, audible… who knows where you heard it but it’s stuck in your head and it gets you every time]. Maybe it’s that line from a movie, or that poem, or that prose you read as a little girl that made you melt… what’s your word porn? What’s your voice porn? Let your ears be the gateway to your pleasure.

5. Get your hands dirty.

Dig them in the soil, knead that dough, massage them so the blood gets flowing, run them through that bowl of greens as the water erupts from the faucet, eat with your hands…. Slip your fingers into the grist of life and let it make you feel alive, sensual, connected, erotic.

6. Keep a secret.

Maybe it’s your "sluttiest" lingerie (is there such a thing?), a black silk bodysuit you can't keep your hands off of, maybe it’s your body jewelry, maybe it’s your leather wrist band (that’s really a cock ring in disguise) or maybe it’s that stash of CBD lube you’ve got hidden in your clutch (or slathered on your thighs) for just the right moment. Mystery has a way of igniting our naughtier side. It’s up to you how you stoke it and when (or if) you reveal it.

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7. Create something… anything.

The same energetic flow that sweeps through us and ignites us, the one that spiritual and sexual and creative, is only different in how we express it. Want to tap into it? Throw paint, throw pottery, throw cheese on a charcuterie board, throw fabric over a mannequin. Doesn’t really matter what the creative endeavor is, just that you stir that God/universe/flow energy in you and really feel it. And when you feel it, so will they.

8. Set the mood.

Ambience is everything. Throw red fabric over a lamp. Light a match and set some candles blazing. Use your most delicious fragrance as room spray. Throw rose petals on the floor. Fill a vase [or five] with an abundance of blooms. Walk barefoot on the floor boards, or the carpet, or whatever turns you on. Bottom line is that when you surround yourself in a mood, it's virtually impossible to not be in that mood.

9. Discover your kink.

We all have one. What’s yours?

10. Bury yourself in a little erotica.

That lazy Sunday morning armchair reading doesn’t have to be a news update or that stack of unread biographies you “should” eventually get to. How about some a.m. dirty talk with your coffee? There doesn’t have to be an end game or a goal, other than it feels fucking good to get lost in the pages of a fantasy.

11. Upgrade your bag of tricks.

Cruise by a sex shop, take a workshop, hit a strip club. You don't need to go full sex whip, bdsm, kink... or you can. Start slowly if you're not a pro. Stretching your boundaries and your skill set can help break up monotony, unlock hidden or latent parts of you, re-ignite your drive and more. Not to mention, a few kinky stories will up your street cred at dinner parties.

12. Smoke it if you got it... CBD, that is.

If it's legalized in your state, then we meant CBD or THC. Bottom line, herbal remedies can fast-track you into the feeling sexier in seconds flat. Pass the torch, please. What makes you feel your sexiest? Details please...

13. Flirt.

With yourself, with life, with the random hottie in line for coffee. It's that charming, playful energy that makes life fun, sensual and spontaneous... and keeps you feeling alive, and yes sexy. The only beauty standard in this equation is how much you engage in life around you.

14. Make a sexy list.

This is the one to-do list you'll actually look forward to. Write down all the things you think are sexy, sensual, yummy. Imagine them in detail, feel them, look for ways to put them into your life. The simple act of thinking about what makes you feel sexy puts you in that sensual flow state and helps you look for that in your life. Maybe check off one or two sexy to-do's a day (even a delicious affirmation can shift your mood).

15. Find your power pose.

Studies have long shown that certain poses (looking at you Wonder Woman) and postures can up your confidence in seconds — and what's sexier than feeling your mojo? When you need a quick boost, check yourself in the mirror. What's your posture like? How are you standing? Hold yourself with power, take up space and feel yourself fire up... in the sexiest way possible.

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If you've perfected your own ways to feel sexy fast, drop us a comment below.