party of one (sexy bitch): solo valentine's day ideas we love

 Valentine's Day falls into that category of "things that depend entirely on your attitude about it." Which, yeah, it's annoying if you're single and have to endure weeks of candy heart bowls and relentless Tiffany ads. But if you can shift your mindset into using this time as a sign for self-love, self-pleasure and self-discovery, you'll fall more in love (and lust) with yourself, which is the bigger goal. We've listed some of our fave ways to spend Valentine's Day if you're single, but of course, don't just put them in motion one day a year. You're worth celebrating every damn day.  P.S. We're not mentioning buying yourselves flowers or taking a bubble bath because that should already be in your rotation. P.S.S. Stay off social media. xxx

Run through those intimacy cards with yourself 

We’re always talking about peeling the yummy onion that’s you because the more you discover about yourself, the more you ask for, seek and get what you need. If you don’t know where to start, intimacy cards designed for lovers also work for one ;)  

Charge (+ use) those tools 

Make sure those good vibes are on tap and ready to play. Who knows what mood you’ll be feeling or moment you’ll be creating, so having an assortment amped up for anything makes sure they can keep up with you when you’re DTF yourself. 

Indulge in a toast and/or toke to you 

Everyday you wake up breathing is a gift, but enduring a basic, made-up holiday deserves extra celebration. Whether you pop your fave bottle of champagne or spike your night with a little catnip, raise a glass or a lighter to celebrate you in all your brilliant queenness. 

Sit your sweet ass at the bar 

Valentine’s Day is notoriously awful for a date night whether you’re partnered up or solo, but if you want to be in that ambiance, trade a table for one for a seat at the bar. It’s generally a more upbeat vibe and you can always chat up the bartender as a distraction.  

Book a day of pampering or an at-home spa night 

Treating yourself like a goddess is always a no brainer. Block off time on the calendar to grab a facial, acupuncture, massage or mani/pedi. Or, find a practitioner who makes house calls for luxury without leaving the house. 

Test-drive some new aphrodisiacs 

Who says you can’t seduce yourself? Make yourself (or let’s be real, order in), a lusty feast for one. Play with your palate, new flavors, different pairings, see how to stretch what you like and discover something new that moves you.  

Host your own party

Whether it’s a dinner party for friends or a virtual cocktail hour, own the night and create plans that’ll keep you focused on the people you're with rather than what you think you might be missing. 

Hit the gym. 

Working out makes you feel delicious thanks to its feel-good-hormone-releasing effects and its testosterone-spiking abilities. Bang out a new class, then use that mood to bang out some yummier time alone with you and your vibe. 

Plan a date night w/a bestie. 

Make the hottest reservation in the city yours and live it up with a best friend, your sister, even someone you'd like to know better. If tables are booked, you can also grab a table on February 13 (Mistress' Day) instead if you want to feel like you're in on something taboo ;) 

How you spoiling yourself on Valentines Day? Share your secrets in the comments.