have you tried edging? (hint: it's the BDSM hack to juicier, more explosive orgasms)

Edging is a having a moment (or a lot of moments if you're doing it correctly) in sex circles. It's the idea that you tease, taunt and play your way to as close to orgasm as you can get, then pull away ie taking your lover (or yourself) to just the mind-blowing edge of climax. The idea is that the more you prolong their ecstasy without letting them succumb, the bigger, more intense the payoff. This consensual, push-and-pull exchange of power is why edging technically falls under the BDSM category. (And if you need more convincing and you're edging a penis, studies have shown the practice of extending the build can help with premature ejaculation.) Like all things sexual, consent and communication are key (especially when the receiver is close to coming so the giver knows when to pull back).

If you need some inspo on ways to extend play, we've listed ideas below... as always, drop your own inspiration in the comments. 

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Try the squeeze trick — This means squeezing the head or base of penis just before orgasm then waiting 30 seconds before stimulating again.

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Switch rhythm or patterns — Whether you're using your hands, fingers or toys, if you or your partner are edging toward a clitoral climax, changing directions, speed and patterns can slow your roll. If your lover is close to nirvana and you're using a vibrator, switching off the power is fast and easy.

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Wear a cock ring — By design, cock rings keep blood flood in the shaft and head of the penis so they stay harder longer, while delaying ejaculation.

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Stop to get a snack. no seriously, grab some fruit, smoke some cannabis, pop champagne... the idea is to keep the mood elevated, arousal high and make them hungry for more. (Note: this isn't a 2-hour lunch break, just hit pause, come back to play.)

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Use multiple stimulation points — Playing with with more than one erogenous zone at the same time lets you get creative. For example, if you're using a g-spot, clitoral or cock vibrator with a butt plug or wand for extra intensity, changing up the vibe modes can be enough to keep you close to orgasming without going over the edge.

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Move to other erogenous zones — Inner thighs, necks, earlobes, toes, breasts, whatever drives them wild, gives them a break from genital stimulation and keeps their head in the game. 

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Practice, practice, practice — Masturbate and test-drive the technique on your partners. It might take time to get your own rhythms and timing in sync as well as your lover's so if at first you don't succeed, get your ass back in bed. 

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Add in other types of play — temperature play, bondage, blindfolds... use them to heighten arousal and heighten the game.

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What are you fave ways, toys and positions when edging? 👇💋